I genuinely don’t believe people treat you based on how they feel about you.
More often, they treat you according to the state of mind they’re in.
Someone who’s at peace within themselves tends to show up with calm, patience, and understanding. Their energy feels open, kind, and grounded. But when a person is in conflict internally when they’re battling old wounds, unhealed emotions, or inner chaos they often project that pain outward. Sometimes it shows up as distance, defensiveness, or sharp words that sting more than they intend.
The truth is, most of the time, it’s not really about you.
It’s about what’s happening within them.
When we begin to see through this lens, everything shifts. We stop taking things so personally. We start to understand that people’s actions often mirror their inner world not our value or what we deserve.
This awareness doesn’t mean we excuse hurtful behaviour or lower our boundaries. It means we stay rooted in compassion without abandoning ourselves. We learn to respond consciously, instead of reacting emotionally.
Because healing isn’t about avoiding pain it’s about transforming how we hold it.
It’s about learning to recognize energy that isn’t ours to carry, and releasing it with love.
At conXus, we believe that true connection begins with the self. When you cultivate inner peace, clarity, and emotional balance, you naturally create harmony in your relationships and your environment. The more grounded you are within, the less the outer world can shake you.
So next time someone’s energy feels off or their words land heavy, pause.
Take a breath.
Remember: not everything that touches you belongs to you.
Healing starts with awareness and awareness creates freedom. 💛